Opinionated, are we?

In my last post, you may have caught the drift that my mother and I have ..... problems getting along. Our relationship has progressivly gotten worse since I was 13 years old. Well I am going to let you in a little more on the reason I have decided on calling it total quits on her in only a matter of months. You may ask, "Why months?"...

In June of 2008, when my son (Tucker) was just 11 months old, Nathan and I (we were only dating then) decided to take a break for a while. Well I hadn't done anything to set myself up for a position like this. I just always was under the impression that Nate would take care of us and we had nothing to worry about. Well I was dead wrong. I had no car, no job, not even a savings account set up for my son and I. So when this break took place, my mother and new step-father drove the 3 hours to come and get us and our belongings. Mom had offered to take care of Tucker so that I didn't have to worry about SRS or anything like that taking him away. I mean, I was scared...I couldn't feed him, how was I going to make sure he was going to be okay...So I jumped at my only option. I decided to move into an apartment w/ my closest frined 45 minutes away from my mother and son, in a town where the job oppertunities were way better. It was only a matter of weeks and I had a police officer at the front door serving me papers. I couldn't understand, I had never before been in trouble with the law, why were they here? Well come to find out, my mother had filed a 'child in need of care' court case against me... Well here it is, June of 2009, Nathan and I back together and happily married, and we are still fighting this. We have met every rule, done everything they have asked, and yet they still won't even grant us over night visits with Tuck...

It is really hard to forgive my mother for pulling a situation like this. She is the type of person that see's an oppertunity to make a little cash on the side and jumps at it...wether it would hurt anyone or if it was at someone else's expense...even her first grandson's. And that's what she did. She is getting $400 a month child support on top of an extra $50 for 'back day care'...that don't even go to Tucker. It was just this month, we had become 2 months behind on our half of the child support (and she don't hardly get anything from Tuckers father, Donavan) and so we sent our half plus this months payment to equal a $600 check. We had our 1 day visit the day after she recieved the check and she stated that she had been to Wal*Mart, but needed us to pick up diapers and sippy cups and all these things that she could have gotten with that $600...

Since she has began recieve court ordered child support every month she has gotten a brand new washer and dryer, that I've seen in Sears sell for nearly $1,000 a piece, a new Dodge Carivan & brand new screen door for the back door...that never needed replaced anyway. Even her dog has been taken to the vet more often and treated for her problems...I'm guessing most of this has come out of the income tax return that they filed and claimed Tucker on. Yet my son sits there with asthma at almost 2 years old and she complains about having to pay for his nubulizer (?sp) and medication because his insurance won't cover the replacement parts...Isn't that was child support is for???

This is why when my son gets to come home, Nathan and I have decided that we are cutting off ties with my mother. For Tucker's sake, she can call and speak with him or vice versa...but I will have nothing to do with her. We've also decided that if this don't end by the time we have our child in November, that she will not have ANY alone time with this second child. It's hard to say this and even to think it, but it's so difficult to think that she did this for the best of Tucker. If she never would have done this, she would have only had him for less than a month.

I know I'm ending this kind of short, but I need to get around and ready for the day. My hubby will be home shortly and I need to get dressed and lunch ready for him to eat. I will be on later to check all of your comments and hopefully post another blog.